Reviews Relationship

Stick to the season

Like you should eat in season to save money you should date “in season” to have fun. Don’t insist on walking around too much outside when the frost is permanently attached to anything you touch. Except if you have skates on your feet! Be active but do what you like. Dating is a great way to share your hobbies with someone else. Try to get them excited to try it, even if they suck at it. Make sure you show some compassion for a mate who flies screaming down a slope on a snowboard for you while you look all put together.

Share an interest

This is a tricky thing that usually becomes an actual problem in relationships and can just be plain helpful as a date idea: include your date in your life. If you don’t want them to be part of it, then why bother to date them? Instead of just watching sports on TV and having a pissed off girlfriend take her to an actual game. She is much more likely to have fun with you than watch you have fun on your own! Girls can get their couch potato moving by taking them to the gym. This goes for all interests, try to share them but do not force them on someone if they really do not like what they see. Taking a guy to a knitting club might just not be a thing to do! If you get desperate sit down with the other person and brainstorm on what you enjoy; if something brought you together it means you must have something in common from which you can find things to enjoy together.

It is important not to force interests upon a person if they try it and really decide not to like it; it is just as important to share things in a relationship as to have separate lives on the side. This is what will give you something to talk about on your dates! If you stop seeing your friends, stop scuba diving because your partner is afraid of water and stop doing the things you love, you will end up in a boring relationship with silences on both ends of the table. This is the beginning of the end and before you know it you are in the singles dating scene again starting the process all over. So finding a balance between shared interests and things you do alone early on is very important. Note however that just because you share all interests you are not doomed to fail; even if you are both psyched about golf, you can still go play just with friends. So don’t be too paranoid about finding an “interests balance”, rather if you continue dating the person try to get a balance in the relationship itself.
The key thing is to get out of the house and out of the restaurant. Movies also do not count as a real “date” because you are actually not interacting with the person. You could have watched the movie alone holding a big pillow and it would make little difference. Dates that will make you interact with the other person and share both your interests will not only teach you more about them, but also show how compatible you actually are. Needless to say this avoids great boredom later down the road!

– Maintain a Good Attitude

Your attitude is an important ingredient in your dating success. Whether you are looking for love online or in the physical world, your attitude is one of the most forgotten dating tips. Your attitude about how you treat yourself and others to treat you permeates through everything you do. It doesn’t matter if you are writing an email, talking over the phone or on a date at a local coffee house, who you are and your attitude speaks volumes to your potential mate.

– Be Yourself

To be yourself is one of easiest, yet hardest, dating tips to apply. Being yourself is critical to ensuring that you give yourself every possible chance to meet your life partner. Being yourself means not pretending to be something you are not and being confident enough to be completely honest and genuine with your date. Honesty is the key to forming lasting relationships and no relationship should start based on a bed of lies and half truths. And you’ll have a much more pleasant evening on your date too!

If you have done that, you also have to understand that every date is unique. Every potential mate is unique. And your expectations are unique. Judge each situation with merit and follow your heart and your instinct. Finding your ideal mate is not impossible but it does take a little work. Following a few straightforward dating tips can help you navigate the road to love success.

1. Trust Without Attraction = “He’s a great friend and I love him to death!” (Translation: “We’ll NEVER have sex!”)

2. Attraction Without Trust = “I’m not a loose woman. He’ll have to wait before he gets any!”

However, if the woman has both attraction AND trust for the guy, she’ll be literally begging you to take her home with you that night.

Let’s take a typical scenario. Say it’s coming up on 11 PM, and you’ve been with a woman since 6 that afternoon. As long as you’ve had good rapport with her and you’ve kept pushing the interaction forward, you can assume she’s attracted to you.

And by the way, with a woman, you should always assume attraction until proven otherwise. Because the bottom line is that as long as you’ve got good body language, you’ve got a lot going on in your life, and you’re witty and interesting, she WILL be attracted to you.

Now you need to build trust. By the time you finish this article, you’ll know an easy, efficient way to do that.

And by the way, this is a one of the best-kept secrets of human persuasion. The most successful advertisers and salesmen to make billions use it, and now you’ll be able to use it with women.

Have you ever noticed how ads will sometimes mention minor defects in the products? A famous example of this was the wildly success Volkswagen Beetle ads from 30 years ago that had the huge headline: “Lemon.”

The point of the ad was that not all of their cars were perfect. VW took its quality inspections so seriously that it took note of even small weaknesses in the builds of its cars.

You see, if a person tells you something that’s against his self-interest, you tend to trust him more. We all do. It’s a fundamental trait of human psychology.

So when it comes to women, you should point out your minor flaws and vulnerabilities. Examples could be:

– “I have a mole on my neck. Sometimes I feel self-conscious about it.”

– “I had to give a speech last week and felt so nervous!”

– “I don’t always floss my teeth even though I should.”

1. Do not fall into the trap of believing you have no other choices in life.

Don’t keep doing what you are doing, and make the rut a little deeper each day.

2. Do have hobbies and fun activities.

Laugh, enjoy what you are doing, or find something that might give you the energy to start your day with enthusiasm.

3. Do learn to make yourself happy.

Don’t do the following: complain a lot, wear a furrowed brow, rush to everything you have to do, spend very little time with old friends, and be afraid to reach out to new people. Don’t stay isolated or you will feel more alone and you will wind up staying at the office, working longer hours.

4. Do get help if you are miserable.

As an intelligent, accomplished person, you probably think that you should know how to figure out your own problems, right?

Stop and realize that if you were ill, you would have to make time to take every measure to get well.

Why not take the time BEFORE you might feel sick and heal your withered spirit? Make a pact with someone that you will meet them for a dance class, gym workout, bicycling break, rock climbing experience, volley ball, basketball, Frisbee in the park, or a game of horseshoes. Do just one fun activity outside of your normal routine and notice the difference in your energy.

Some bad first dates have unexpected events that are out of our control. However, here are some first date ideas that may minimize problems that can occur. Avoid the following for a first date:

Expensive restaurants

A multiple course meal at an expensive restaurant can become agonizing if five minutes into the evening you wish you had never agreed to go out with this person. Go to a coffee house, or, if you must go to dinner, pick a cheap, but cozy out-of-the-way place that is relatively quiet so you can talk. Come in separate cars.

Family and Friends

Do not take the person to meet your parents, children, or friends on a first date. Parties are not a good idea either, if your date does not know anyone there. You need a place where you can talk, but is public, so you can leave if you need to.

Movies, noisy restaurants, and crowded bars

These are not good venues for conversation. You either can’t talk, or you can’t be heard, depending on which of the three you choose.

Sitting still

Women like to sit and talk, gaze into someone’s eyes, and share. Men like doing activities. Strive for a balance of physical activity and sitting. A walk in the park and a picnic; or a trip to the zoo and a quiet dinner are possibilities. Roller skating, tennis, dancing, fishing, or hiking can all be followed by going to a coffee house or an ice cream parlor.

Exes

Never talk about your exes on a first date–especially to complain about them. There is no greater turn off. Furthermore, it’s a big red flag that you are not over them.

* Your Focus

The essence of irresistible attraction is to draw into your life and allow only those events and people who bring you joy. Focus on areas that are most important to attract the best in life–not everything in life.

* Who You Are

Are you stressed? Are the people around you stressed? What you have going on around you is a reflection of who and where you are. Are you feeling lack? Do you think that by acquiring more things, you will be happier? Start with what you have and take better care of it, instead of trying to acquire more.

* What You Do

You can increase the quality of what you attract by becoming more attractive to yourself. Live your life in ways that make you proud.

* Details

The genius of life is in the details. The smallest choices can be as far-reaching as the largest choices. Work on changing one small unproductive habit and watch how it affects you.

1. When talking to or about single women, are you still living back in time and calling them babes, broads, chicks, or something even more repulsive? Always call a woman by her name! If you use these terms mentioned, you will insult and turn single women completely off.

2. When out on a date, do you spend all of your time eyeing other women in the bar, nightclub, or restaurant? Don’t even think for a minute that she won’t notice. She will not only notice, but may be so turned off by your behavior that she may never want to see you again. Always focus all of your undivided attention on the woman you’re with. Treat her like a Princess and she will make you her Prince.

3. Another common mistake men make early in a relationship with a single woman is being too sexually aggressive. After just meeting a woman you don’t want to come on all hot & horny and all you can focus on is jumping her bones and pawing at her body. This kind of behavior can scare women and turn them off. They usually don’t like a complete stranger pawing at their bodies and making sexual overtones. Get to know her first to where she is comfortable with you and then make your physical moves.

4. When talking to a woman, do find yourself concentrating totally on her breasts? This is a real no no! Always look women in the eyes when talking to her. Believe me, if all you can do is stare at her breasts, she will catch on to it and will ditch you as soon as possible. Women don’t like men who constantly stare at their breasts. In a topless club it’s OK, but not when you just meet a woman or in the early stages of dating.

5. If a woman wants to be independent, let her. For instance, if she wants to change her own flat tire, let her. If she wants to open her own door, let her. If she wants to order her own food or wine, let her. Let her assert her independence. It will make a good impression on her. You’re making a big mistake if you want to act Macho all the time and not let her act independent if this is what she desires.